Expanding boundaries of exploration for our child
As our children sit up, the world looks different to them. When they start walking, it’s as if they discover a new dimension of life. Now they can see many objects which they didn’t see before. They can reach many objects which they didn’t reach before. With this new dimension, they want to explore even more unusual things. It may seem like all they are interested in are things which you can’t give them. And whatever you give as an alternative is ruthlessly shot down.
Imagine getting attracted to something and wanting it and moving towards it believing that the thing you desire is within reach. And just when you are about to get it, someone picks it up and keeps it out of reach. Or even worse, someone picks you up and you have to look at the thing as you are helplessly carried away from it.
If we try to orient ourselves to the child’s life, we may get a glimpse of the frustration and helplessness our child feels in these moments.
Soon, as the child reaches out to more and more things, these forbidden things increase in number- glass objects, sharp objects, delicate objects, tools, stationery, books and so on. And our houses are filled with these things which are a part of our daily use.
Imagine the frustration! Crankiness is natural then and well deserved too.
What if we expand the boundaries of exploration for our child?
Can we allow some of the forbidden objects to be explored under sharp supervision and under some conditions?
Eg. Can the child explore a glass object sitting on a cushioned place, supervised?
Can your child play with the broom, even sweep, provided cleanliness is made a priority right after the play?
The forbidden nature of things has always created a pull for humans. If we allow and help our child explore safely, the child won’t be drawn to reach out for these things in our absence.
Activity:
What are the forbidden objects and places for your child?
Identify a few which the child can explore under certain conditions.
Experiment with what you are comfortable allowing. (Of course, keeping in mind the safety of your child)
Observe the effects of your expanded boundaries on your child and your relationship with your child.